Wish Your Family was as Excited to Declutter as YOU?

The month of February offers lots of reminders to let your loved ones know how special they are to you.  But, you might not be feeling so grateful and loving if those loved ones aren’t supporting your goal of paring down and creating space. 


If you are motivated and excited to start decluttering, but your family or friends aren’t on the same page, then the job of letting go might feel even harder, like you have another weight tying you to your stuff.

So what can you do? 


How can you get everyone on board and ready to start letting go of the extras? 

The hard truth is that you can’t make anyone feel the same way that you do about decluttering.  The decisions that surround letting go are personal and we have to honor that fact.  If you force or rush someone into letting go, chances are you will get even more push back.  

The good news is that no matter how your partner, child, parent, or friend feels about it, you can still make progress.

Here are a some ways that you can keep the peace & still move forward on your goal to declutter & create space.

Start with your own stuff.
It might feel easier to dig into your partner or child’s stuff (I’m sure you know exactly where you’d like to start – all that hobby stuff that they haven’t used in years or that clothes collecting dust in the back of the closet), but the best way to create change that allows everyone to get on board, is to start with YOUR stuff.  When you work on categories that are specific to you, then you are able to make decisions faster (you won’t have to ask for input) & you are modeling how to manage & care for your stuff. 

Let your loved one know why this is important to you
Often when we share the reason behind the work (you want to create space to work on your hobby without taking over the dining room table or you want to stop managing so much stuff & instead have more energy for date night), then we get buy in.  Let people know what you are working on & why!  It really does make a difference and they might even offer to help.

Allow the decluttering to become contagious
As you begin to feel the energy around your stuff start to lighten up, your mood will also start to lift!  Your loved ones will begin to notice that energy shift and want to be a part of it.  Let it become contagious!  It might take time & they might not go about it in the way that you do, but remember that any positive movement creates space for a sense of light & ease to enter.  

If your loved ones aren’t ready to declutter but you know that you will get more done when you have a partner by your side, then find a friend or hire a professional organizer and get the support you need to move ahead. Make this process work for YOU.

Need Permission to Let Go?

Are you in one of those seasons of life when you have taken on too much and are overwhelmed by all of your responsibilities? Or maybe expectations at work increased at the exact same time as a family commitment became more intense? Or maybe you are feeling the pressure of the upcoming holidays and all that goes into making that time of year work?

When I find myself in the middle of a season that feels too full I often long for a way out, but it can also feel like my hands are tied. It’s easy to tell myself that I just have to suck it up, deal with it, and hope for easier days ahead. But I know in my heart there has to be another way, because powering through often leaves me exhausted, resentful, and still feeling stuck.

It might not be easy.  But I have to LET GO. 

I don’t mean throw in the towel or trash it all! That doesn’t solve anything. What I am talking about is noticing the things that are taking up time and energy, but could be set down FOR NOW. Setting a few things aside FOR NOW is one way to open up the breathing space needed to keep my body and mind from feeling so overloaded and neglected. But nobody knows what those things are but me.

No one can give me permission to let go.  The only person who knows what I need, when I need it is ME.   

Which means I have be mindful of what is happening inside of me. I have to stay in touch with my tendencies, my desires, my hopes and my frustrations.

So if you are feeling overloaded and know that a shift is needed, then try this simple exercise to uncover the things that you want to let go of FOR NOW in order to take better care of your mental health and your heart.

  • Find a scrap of paper, the back of an envelope, or turn to the next page in one of the many notebooks lying around.
  • Take 5 minutes and write down everything that you would like permission to let go of. Go ahead! No one has to see this list.
  • And don’t sensor yourself. If something wants to get written on the list, then write it. No second-guessing.
  • Now sit for a moment and let yourself feel the relief that comes from listening to the requests that are coming from your heart. Maybe even put your hands on your heart-it’s funny how this simple act can feel so soothing.
  • Then, commit to make one small change OR do nothing but keep this list in mind and watch for ways that you could decrease your involvement in something that you wrote.

Offer yourself the permission to let go of needing to do it all! Your body, mind and soul will thank you.

If you are in a place of overwhelm and longing to shed some of the things in your life that are holding you back, then I hope you find some encouragement from this poem by Safire Rose. 

SHE LET GO

You can let go.  You can move ahead. 
Offer yourself the permission you need to make your life reflect your desires.

Declutter & Redesign is all about letting go of the things that no longer serve you and redesigning your space, lifestyle, or habits to fit that yearning in your soul for a change or an easier way.  

And this letting go can happen in stages, so wherever you are on your own journey, I hope you continue to follow along or share this message of hope, so that we each find the support we need at the right time.

Be in touch. I offer a 30 min. free phone consultation and would love to hear more about the changes that you are longing to make.

Ready for a Change But Can’t Find the Motivation?

Are you facing a space full of clutter but feel unmotivated to get started on the project?

You are not alone if you feel tempted to put it off, close the door on the space, or shove all the extras into a bag or bin instead of dealing with them!

It happens.  This is real life.   And it can seem hard to find the courage, energy, and time to start a project.   

You might also feel alone in the struggle to keep up & resentful that this is what you have to spend your time on when you have a million other things that you’d like to do.

But the clutter isn’t going to go away on it’s own, so I want to offer a few tips that can decrease the overwhelm & make the decluttering process feel lighter.

Let Go of Comparison

There are lots of opinions & strategies on how to clear clutter & maintain your spaces, along with tons of perfectly manicured images showing the “ideal” home life. And some of this can be inspiring, but often all of that input is paralyzing. You start to compare & judge your strategies. You question yourself & forget to listen to your intuition. 

So when YOU decide it’s time to tackle your project, you have to let go of comparison. Let go of how things work for other people & start tuning into the things that have worked for you in the past, the ideas you have always longed to try, and the tips that really resonate & feel like YOU.

When you let go of comparison & tap into your intuition & desire, then the changes you make & the way you tackle this project will better fit your personality & lifestyle.

Get Curious

Digging into a project takes a commitment of time & energy, so it’s helpful to to understand WHY you want to get started & WHAT will make the process work best for you.

Before you even pick up an item, step back and look at your situation with “fresh eyes.” Try to let go of shame, embarrassment or self-judgment & look at the situation & your things from a place of curiosity. Ask yourself these questions to allow the needed shifts to come to light:

  • What is the feeling that I hope to achieve once this stuff is dealt with?
  • Is this stuff holding me back from something else I want in my life?
  • Do I have a deadline or do I need to make one?
  • Do I work better when I have a partner to help with decisions & keep me going? Who can I ask to support me?
  • Am I the kind of person that likes to work in small chunks or do I want to set aside a large block of time to work?

Add Creativity

You don’t have to consider yourself a creative person to be successful at decluttering, but the process will be more interesting & a lot more fun when you are open to new ideas and ways of thinking about your space. 

Stay open to thinking outside-the-box & your creative mind will bring to light new ways to repurpose some of the items that you’d like to keep but haven’t been using. Maybe your grandmother’s rolling pin will become a work of art when hung on the kitchen wall!

Tap into the spirit of creativity as you experiment with new habits that will create more flow in your life. Experimenting lifts the pressure & lets this become a process with no right answer, just information that will move you ahead.

Go For It!

Getting started can be the hardest part, so lift some of the pressure & weight of the project by letting go of comparison & then adding curiosity and creativity. Let this new way to look at your project shift your energy & spark the motivation that will lead to action!

Contact me today if you are motivated but know you can’t do it alone. Together we can make it happen!

Is Grief Holding Back Your Decluttering?

Are you faced with the challenge of sorting through items left by a loved one’s death?  

This can be one of the hardest things to get the motivation & courage to do.  And you wouldn’t be alone if you packed up the stuff & then let it sit for a few years.  Or maybe you closed the door on a closet or room & find yourself avoiding this space because you are not ready to face what’s inside. 

You might feel some guilt or shame that you haven’t been able to work on this stuff earlier, and maybe you are beating yourself up over how many times you have tried to start the sorting & clearing, but can’t follow-through.  

Whew… Heavy stuff.  

But let’s shift the narrative away from the shoulds & shame.

I want to share compassion, and hopefully some relief, by letting you know it’s okay.  Those strategies, that probably haven’t felt like strategies to you, are exactly what you needed to do in the midst of the the change & grief that this loss created.  

Grief is a powerful, individual journey & no one can offer the roadmap or timeframe that will predict when YOU will be ready to deal with the stuff left behind.  And forcing yourself to “power through” may get the job done, but the process will likely feel harder & more overwhelming than it needs to be.

So if you are grieving and wondering when and how to tackle this project, I want to offer a few thoughts that might create a little light in a space that can feel dark & hard.

First, work to let go of comparison

We each deal with grief & loss in our own way & in our own time, so commit to go at your own pace without judging your action or inaction based on someone else.  There is no need to rush the process or feel guilty if you haven’t been ready. 

Recognize that this physical stuff seems to hold a lot of memories, but the memories are actually inside of you

You get to keep the memories regardless of whether you hold on to the stuff.  The dusty wine bottle from your first anniversary or the shoe box of old baseball cards are reminders of your time together & the person you love, but they don’t tell the story.  The stories are in you. 

Create new avenues that will cultivate your favorite memories

As you come across pieces that spark positive stories & happy memories, you can take a picture to create a visual reminder of that event. Or use a journal or voice dictation on your phone to collect the feelings, thoughts & images that come to mind.  Keeping the physical item will become less important once you have created alternate ways to trigger the memories of those good times with your loved one.

Allow the letting go to happen in stages

There will be some things that are easy to sort & clear and those are the first areas to tackle when you start the process.  This easier stuff will offer you practice & build your confidence.  And remind you that letting go creates a feeling of relief & lightness

As you dig into the stuff that feels harder & you are faced with a tough decision, you can offer yourself permission to put this in a “maybe” pile or keep it “for now.” It’s ok to go slow & keep more during your first sort. You can come back after you have taken a break. Once a little time goes by & you get more practice letting go, then those hard decisions might not feel so heavy.

Honor the items you keep

If it feels right, place the items that you keep in areas where you can enjoy them. Allow those good memories to resurface every time to notice the item. And if you aren’t ready or it doesn’t feel right to wear, display, or use the items, then dedicate a tote or bin that will keep them safe from deterioration.

Feel proud of each step you take on this journey

It may feel like slow work and you might get frustrated that you aren’t able to move through things faster & make decisions quickly. But, there has been a lot of emotion wrapped up in this stuff. Remind yourself that each decision moves you one step further. You are moving ahead & you can be proud of the courage & strength it took to start this work.

Sending you love & encouragement.

If you’d like to share something that you have found helpful or would like to tell me more about your situation, I’d love to hear from you. Share it below.

Get Ready to Enter & Exit with More Ease

The entrance to your house is a hardworking space! It has to be ready to accommodate the comings & goings of all of the members of the family plus the stuff they are taking in & out.

So it makes sense to spend a little time at the change of each season to evaluate what needs to stay & what needs to go. And then to make the necessary tweaks or changes that will allow you to enter & exit with more ease.

Here are some solutions that could get your entry, mudroom, or the transition space in the garage ready for all that life throws at it!

Add boundaries for the items that need to live in this space. Here the mail & the shoes are contained with a tray, baskets, and the rug.

Send the junk mail & extra papers to recycling & then use a tray, a small basket, or a clipboard to collect the mail & papers that need extra attention.

A bowl or hook can create a designated spot for keys- no more hunting!!!

The items that are used daily can be collected with a basket or a space on a shelf.

Hooks on the wall or in the transition space in the garage will keep things from piling up on the floor.

Boot trays & rugs are a great reminder of where footwear should live & help to keep any dirt or mess confined to one space.

These are just some of the ways that creating an entry space with intention can make daily life feel easier.

I’d love to hear the ideas that are working for YOU!

Be in touch if your entry is causing headaches and you aren’t sure out how to make it better.