I Miss Community

When we come together, we aren’t just stronger. We’re also able to share our compassion, our time, our wisdom, our love.

Today I looked at these words, glued to my 2020 vision board, and thought about how much I have missed being in community.  What I’m feeling is not just frustration over the logistical gymnastics it takes to actually be in community right now,,,, this is more about the resonance of community – the connections, compassion, insights, sharing that happens when we come together.  

When I decided to step away from the business, I didn’t realize how much I would miss being in connection around a common theme or goal.  And how necessary it is to “be there” for each other, even if I don’t quite know the right words or actions.  

I thought I was respecting a voice inside asking for a shift, but rather than take a step to the side or a step forward in a different way, I stepped back- silencing myself and disconnecting from community.  It felt safer to get quiet.

I was afraid if I kept blogging or posting, then it might create confusion.  That if I wasn’t going to work with clients in homes as a professional organizer, then I shouldn’t be online offering my thoughts on decluttering and letting go.  This of course came from an old pattern I can fall into  – looking at things in an all-or-nothing way.  It’s one of those worn out ideas I use to keep me safe – black or white, I am either this or that… But the more I experience life in the grey area or watch others create life full of grey, the more I am coming to realize how freeing it is to crack the mold a little or make new rules or reject rigidity. 

I created a business out of a desire to shine a light on all the unnecessary clutter in life and then open the space for what’s really important.  And I still believe in that mission.  I want to keep sharing my journey to shed the extras- the stuff, the old patterns and thoughts, the prejudices and insecurities, the shoulds…  It might be through a blog or maybe just an image.  It probably won’t be a “how to” or involve a “before and after,” except when I describe a revelation about shedding an out-dated idea.  

If you are ok with a little grey, then hang in there with me as I ride the ups and downs of redesign.  It won’t be perfect and there will be some stops and starts, probably some missteps, but I promise to show up as close to myself as I can.  I am committed to decluttering so I can design a life that reflects my desires, not based on what society expects or has conditioned me to desire.  

This is a time for community.  A time to support each other in all of this uncertainty.  And I hope to offer my support.  I believe decluttering, externally and internally, allows us to get to the heart of what matters, individually and as a community. And when we let go of the extras, we can enter into community with more space for compassion and care.

You won’t find me sharing on FB, that platform doesn’t work for me right now, but I will post on Insta and maybe share an occasional newsletter.  

If you aren’t into this kind of conversation, feel free to unsubscribe or unfollow.  Declutter what doesn’t work for you. And if you are feeling a desire for community, even one that’s just starting to find it’s way, then let’s stay connected.