Most of my work is around letting go of physical clutter. The stuff in closets that hasn’t been touched in years, the piles of papers lining surfaces & the dusty boxes stacked in the basement.
It’s a physical job & I can literally feel the weight of all of that letting go as we haul out the bags & boxes. The clearing that we do is motivation for me to keep moving forward with the mantra that letting go opens room for more.
And when I say “more,” I don’t mean more stuff, even though that can happen, what I mean is more of life, more opportunities, more of what you need & want.
And I have been testing this theory out in my own life. Letting go of physical clutter has opened room for creativity, efficiency, & calm- all good things, but I know that physical clutter is only one area where my life can get stagnant & stuck. I have realized that it’s time to push forward and do some purging in other areas. So these past months I have been taking steps to let go of the voice that says “I NEED TO DO IT ALL MYSELF.”
Gasp! Did I really say that???
Yes, it’s true. I like to count on ME to make things happen. And running my own business has caused, or I could say offered me the perfect opportunity to find out how well this idea serves me.
Being my own boss gives me a chance to try doing everything there is to do. But I am finding that many things aren’t so easy. Lots of things require additional learning- hours looking things up, trial & error, headaches & time spent griping or backtracking.
The need to do it all myself has become a heavy weight. I’m stuck in another type of clutter. The clutter of stuck thinking patterns.
And the result of being stuck is less time & energy for the stuff that I really enjoy and are the best use of my talents & skills in this work. I have funneled lots of energy, attention & brain-power into things that could easily be done by someone with more expertise & in much less time.
It has been a slow recognition, but now I am pushing myself to really look at taking some steps forward in a different way.
I started with “the sort” – just as we do when we have physical clutter to let go of. I began sifting through my daily work to find the things that bog me down & keep me stuck in place vs. the things that feel easy & don’t require massive time & learning in order to implement. I had to look back at how many times I continued to hit a brick wall & recognize that those are the places that aren’t working on my own.
And then I began to look for people to take some of the work of doing it all off of my shoulders. It has felt a little scary to be turn over control, to ask for help & show some vulnerability with my work, but the relief feels even better.
And just days after I let go & released the grip of doing it all on my own, more fell in my lap! New clients were in touch, new ideas came and new doors opened in areas that make sense with the trajectory of my business. Letting go can offer so much more. And slowly I am interjecting that mantra into more areas of life.
Do you suffer from a case of needing to do it all yourself? Are you ready to lighten that heavy burden?
Asking for help & support can feel hard, but if you tiptoe in with people you trust & respect, it can feel a lot less scary. Ask for referrals or look to a friend or family member so that you can practice with people who make you feel comfortable and understood.
I like to imagine that after we let go of physical clutter, the space gets to take a big exhale – A deep breath of gratitude for the attention & release of that stagnant energy. The same is true with deeply held patterns of thinking. Release a little and lighter energy will be your reward.
If you have been stuck in an old pattern & are ready to let go, but want support then push submit below & we can create a plan to make it happen.