Ready for a Change But Can’t Find the Motivation?

Are you facing a space full of clutter but feel unmotivated to get started on the project?

You are not alone if you feel tempted to put it off, close the door on the space, or shove all the extras into a bag or bin instead of dealing with them!

It happens.  This is real life.   And it can seem hard to find the courage, energy, and time to start a project.   

You might also feel alone in the struggle to keep up & resentful that this is what you have to spend your time on when you have a million other things that you’d like to do.

But the clutter isn’t going to go away on it’s own, so I want to offer a few tips that can decrease the overwhelm & make the decluttering process feel lighter.

Let Go of Comparison

There are lots of opinions & strategies on how to clear clutter & maintain your spaces, along with tons of perfectly manicured images showing the “ideal” home life. And some of this can be inspiring, but often all of that input is paralyzing. You start to compare & judge your strategies. You question yourself & forget to listen to your intuition. 

So when YOU decide it’s time to tackle your project, you have to let go of comparison. Let go of how things work for other people & start tuning into the things that have worked for you in the past, the ideas you have always longed to try, and the tips that really resonate & feel like YOU.

When you let go of comparison & tap into your intuition & desire, then the changes you make & the way you tackle this project will better fit your personality & lifestyle.

Get Curious

Digging into a project takes a commitment of time & energy, so it’s helpful to to understand WHY you want to get started & WHAT will make the process work best for you.

Before you even pick up an item, step back and look at your situation with “fresh eyes.” Try to let go of shame, embarrassment or self-judgment & look at the situation & your things from a place of curiosity. Ask yourself these questions to allow the needed shifts to come to light:

  • What is the feeling that I hope to achieve once this stuff is dealt with?
  • Is this stuff holding me back from something else I want in my life?
  • Do I have a deadline or do I need to make one?
  • Do I work better when I have a partner to help with decisions & keep me going? Who can I ask to support me?
  • Am I the kind of person that likes to work in small chunks or do I want to set aside a large block of time to work?

Add Creativity

You don’t have to consider yourself a creative person to be successful at decluttering, but the process will be more interesting & a lot more fun when you are open to new ideas and ways of thinking about your space. 

Stay open to thinking outside-the-box & your creative mind will bring to light new ways to repurpose some of the items that you’d like to keep but haven’t been using. Maybe your grandmother’s rolling pin will become a work of art when hung on the kitchen wall!

Tap into the spirit of creativity as you experiment with new habits that will create more flow in your life. Experimenting lifts the pressure & lets this become a process with no right answer, just information that will move you ahead.

Go For It!

Getting started can be the hardest part, so lift some of the pressure & weight of the project by letting go of comparison & then adding curiosity and creativity. Let this new way to look at your project shift your energy & spark the motivation that will lead to action!

Contact me today if you are motivated but know you can’t do it alone. Together we can make it happen!

Is Grief Holding Back Your Decluttering?

Are you faced with the challenge of sorting through items left by a loved one’s death?  

This can be one of the hardest things to get the motivation & courage to do.  And you wouldn’t be alone if you packed up the stuff & then let it sit for a few years.  Or maybe you closed the door on a closet or room & find yourself avoiding this space because you are not ready to face what’s inside. 

You might feel some guilt or shame that you haven’t been able to work on this stuff earlier, and maybe you are beating yourself up over how many times you have tried to start the sorting & clearing, but can’t follow-through.  

Whew… Heavy stuff.  

But let’s shift the narrative away from the shoulds & shame.

I want to share compassion, and hopefully some relief, by letting you know it’s okay.  Those strategies, that probably haven’t felt like strategies to you, are exactly what you needed to do in the midst of the the change & grief that this loss created.  

Grief is a powerful, individual journey & no one can offer the roadmap or timeframe that will predict when YOU will be ready to deal with the stuff left behind.  And forcing yourself to “power through” may get the job done, but the process will likely feel harder & more overwhelming than it needs to be.

So if you are grieving and wondering when and how to tackle this project, I want to offer a few thoughts that might create a little light in a space that can feel dark & hard.

First, work to let go of comparison

We each deal with grief & loss in our own way & in our own time, so commit to go at your own pace without judging your action or inaction based on someone else.  There is no need to rush the process or feel guilty if you haven’t been ready. 

Recognize that this physical stuff seems to hold a lot of memories, but the memories are actually inside of you

You get to keep the memories regardless of whether you hold on to the stuff.  The dusty wine bottle from your first anniversary or the shoe box of old baseball cards are reminders of your time together & the person you love, but they don’t tell the story.  The stories are in you. 

Create new avenues that will cultivate your favorite memories

As you come across pieces that spark positive stories & happy memories, you can take a picture to create a visual reminder of that event. Or use a journal or voice dictation on your phone to collect the feelings, thoughts & images that come to mind.  Keeping the physical item will become less important once you have created alternate ways to trigger the memories of those good times with your loved one.

Allow the letting go to happen in stages

There will be some things that are easy to sort & clear and those are the first areas to tackle when you start the process.  This easier stuff will offer you practice & build your confidence.  And remind you that letting go creates a feeling of relief & lightness

As you dig into the stuff that feels harder & you are faced with a tough decision, you can offer yourself permission to put this in a “maybe” pile or keep it “for now.” It’s ok to go slow & keep more during your first sort. You can come back after you have taken a break. Once a little time goes by & you get more practice letting go, then those hard decisions might not feel so heavy.

Honor the items you keep

If it feels right, place the items that you keep in areas where you can enjoy them. Allow those good memories to resurface every time to notice the item. And if you aren’t ready or it doesn’t feel right to wear, display, or use the items, then dedicate a tote or bin that will keep them safe from deterioration.

Feel proud of each step you take on this journey

It may feel like slow work and you might get frustrated that you aren’t able to move through things faster & make decisions quickly. But, there has been alot of emotion wrapped up in this stuff. Remind yourself that each decision moves you one step further. You are moving ahead & you can be proud of the courage & strength it took to start this work.

Sending you love & encouragement.

If you’d like to share something that you have found helpful or would like to tell me more about your situation, I’d love to hear from you. Share it below.

The Courage to DIY

How many times have you started a project only to have it stall out because the next step required a little extra muscle, a handyperson, or a tool that you had never used before?  I see this all the time, which is why lately I have been boosting my DIY skills to be a partner that can help ensure that projects reach completion.

That doesn’t mean I am willing to get in over-my-head.  I know my limits.

And I understand that time, energy and money can be saved when we call in a partner with specific expertise (that’s why you call me, right!).  But what I am talking about is adding some tools to my tool belt (literally and figuratively) & then mixing in a dose of courage to be a better ally to myself and my clients.

Here are a couple of examples 

Earlier this winter, I was working with a client in her daughter’s bedroom & the goal was to hang all of the amazing artwork that had been created over the summer.

This is a project that can easily be put off or overlooked since there can be multiple steps to see it through to completion.  But this client was ready & excited to get this checked off of her list!

During our session we made sure we had the right tools for the job, framed the art, mapped out the placement, organized the arrangements,  & put it all on the walls.  It took a little pre-planning, a little extra measuring, & a little tweaking, but the end result = art hung & a happy mom & daughter!

Another session involved reorganizing the laundry room in a client’s new house.  The space had been set up for the previous owner, but now we were making it work for her small family. 

The ironing board hanger in the closet was taking up prime space that could be used by the brooms & mops that needed a home.  Once again, it was time to pull out a few tools, my courage, and then go for it.

With the right tools, it didn’t take long to take down the ironing board hanger & replace it with a broom hanger.  A project that needed a little dedicated time & a little extra muscle was checked off the list.  Mops & brooms were hung & the closet was ready for action.

The relief of getting these projects completed was conveyed by both clients and I left each session giving myself a little pat on the back for adding a little courage to my tool belt & putting to use some skills that can make a big difference in bringing a project to completion.

 

Your Turn…

Is there a project that you have been longing to tackle or finish but something is stopping you? 

How could your outlook about this project change if you added a dose of courage?

Do you need a partner to boost your courage & ease the overwhelm around this project?

Tell me about it!

 

Why I Chose to Dig into Clutter

I believe that living with too much stuff is overwhelming!

Stuff gets in the way of feeling creative, inspired, peaceful, and in-tune with yourself and the world around you. Clutter builds and builds and you can become stuck trying to find a way to manage and store it all. You tidy and sort and then do it again; moving it around, trying to feel better about it.

I believe that if you pare down and think about what really matters to you, you can create spaces that feels light and easy. Your space will reflect your beliefs and how you want to present yourself to the world.

Once the clutter is clear, things will begin to shift in your world. You will have created room for new opportunities & the heaviness that surrounded all of that stuff will be gone.

I believe that it is really helpful to have a partner as you begin this process.

A partner who only wants the best for you and is ready to be of service.

A partner to help you gain clarity around what you are really looking for in your space and life.

A partner that can help you look at things with new eyes and see the possibilities that are hiding in your space.

A partner to keep things light and keep you going.

I would love to offer myself as that partner. I want to help you breathe life back into the openings of your heart and home.

Are you ready?  Let’s make the changes that you have been longing for happen NOW!

 

Transitions & Hope – A Field Trip to Ruth’s House

I have a soft heart.  And I always feel I could be doing more.  Combine these qualities & it’s hard to shake the feeling that I want to do whatever I can to make a difference in the world.  Yet I understand that there are so many things that I can not do – things that are better left to those with a more talent, more skill, more knowledge, more strength.

So to find out what all these amazing people are up to, I have made it a priority to take myself on field trips.

I truly want to understand how our communities work – where the support is, where the need is, who the gatekeepers are, where we find the comforters, the leaders, the change-makers – and a little field trip can offer some insight into those things.

I also want to be a resource of information for you.  You have shown that you care deeply about our world & where your donations are going.  I hear of your desire to find good homes for the things that you no longer want or need – sometimes holding on to things because you want them to be passed on well.

And that’s where I come in.

The more we all know about our community & the needs that are out there, the easier it is to let go & trust that all those items can find their place in the circle of abundance.

This past week I took a field trip to Faribault, MN to Ruth’s House, a non-profit organization which provides transitional and permanent supportive housing to women & children.  I made a call to inquire if they would be another resource for donated items & they graciously invited me in for a tour to answer that question & let me take a peak at how things operate inside the house.

Suzanne, the Development & Operations Manager, took me around the grand white house that was built in the 1890s.  This old house has been set up to provide a safe, stable transition for women & families who face homelessness due to domestic violence, poverty, addiction, health challenges or other issues.

The house is able to accommodate 9  families (women & children) & just like any house, they have lots of systems in place to keep the days running smoothly.  The house offers it’s residents their own bedroom/living space plus community rooms  where they can cook, eat, do their laundry, watch movies & play games, or enjoy time in the backyard.  Not only do the residents have a  comfortable place to stay, they receive support & education during their time at the house from a dedicated staff & wonderful volunteers that share of their talents.

The basement at Ruth’s House has been turned into an efficient little warehouse to store all of the donations & supplies that are used to support the residents.  Volunteers were hard at work sorting through the items that had come in that week.  I was impressed by their ability to keep the space organized & ready to serve the family’s needs – another great system!

It was a great field trip & I left with the image of the artwork that is hanging in the community dining room.  Large, brightly decorated letters that spell out the word HOPE.  Perfect for a space that brings that very thing to our community.

Your Turn…

I left with a short list of items that I will be watching for as we work together & pack up your donation items.  If I notice those items, I will check in with you to see if I can share them with Ruth’s House.

The ongoing donation needs are the typical basics of a family home: toilet paper, paper towels, hand soap, laundry soap, dish soap, body wash, lotion, shampoo & conditioner.  They also share a  list of needs in local papers each week and post more info. about drop off times & collection sites on their website.

Because of their limited storage space, it’s best to use the donation list or inquire at their office if you have items that you believe could be useful.

Next Steps…

To find out more about Ruth’s House, learn how you could volunteer, or make a monetary donation, go to their website.  ruthshousemn.org

Have a place you think would make a good field trip?  Let me know with your comments below.